Broken, Empty & Hurting ......Grieving a lost loved one?

Losing A Beloved Adult Child



Back in 2016, whilst we were still living in Cyprus, Christine felt the Lord telling her that we needed to NURTURE one another and pray for others who needed Nuturing and help those who are lonely or depressed.  Immediately I started to build this site, but after a while events took over and one morning at 5.30 am February 2017 I experienced terrible cramp in my left leg and it was so painful, that I became unconscious and went into an Anaphylactic shock; Christine prayed for me as she thought I was dying. However when I came round, the Lord spoke to me and said, "You cannot keep putting Christine through this; you are to go back to England to be near your family.  Our oldest daughter was living in Telford, Shropshire and our other daughter Lisa was living in the City of Wolverhampton.

Right away we Skyped our daughter living in Telford; she and her family were so pleased that we were coming back home.  That very day we decided to try and purchase a resonably priced house as we had used lots of our money in the 10 years we lived in Cyprus.  We had only rented houses in Cyprus, so we started looking for a house in Telford online; eventually we found a 2 bedroom Bungalow in Telford within our price range.  Our daughter Naomi went to look at a few houses for us and Naomi said the bungalow was the best to go for.  She was living in the town and helped with most of the dealings with the estate agents (realtors) As we had only seen pictures on the internet.

Eventually we flew back from Cyprus on April 6th 2017, for the last time and on the 20th May after some renovation we moved into our bungalow.  It took a while to adjust to living back in England and were happy to be near the family again.  Little did we know at that time, that this was not going to be a happy year for us all.

Naomi was diagnosed with Lung Lymphoma back in 2006 and over the years; we tried to help her use Natural methods of supporting the body and her specialist kept an eye on her. She had never smoked or led a life that would have caused lung cancer.  However she carried on working teaching kids in a primary school over the years. Soon after we moved back to England, she started developing a nasty cough again and could not hold her food down as everything made her feel sick.  Over the next few months she could hardly eat anything and in October she resigned from her teaching job after 17 years in that school.  Her daughter Abigail was also doing her last few months at University studying for a BSc in environmental science. Her Son Matthew was also doing well in his job working as a Civil Servant with Land Registry. 

Naomi was so proud of Abi and was looking forward to her graduation in the following July.  However her health began to deteriorate and we all adviced her to go and see her Consultant again (who had given her the all clear only months before). She was sent for an endoscopy, which revealed growths within the esophogus, so she was referred to 2 more hospitals for biopsies and further tests that diagnosed aggressive cancer.  Gradually from October she got thinner and thinner and during early December she had a stroke and never recovered from it and died on December 21st 2018. The Bible tells us that when any of us die our body returns to the earth but our Spirit goes to the Lord:

Ecclesiastes 12:7 "Then the dust will return to the earth as it was, And the spirit will return to God who gave it".

We realised that the Lord had sent us back to England to be with her in her last few months.  She was 49 years old and was hoping to see her 50th birthday in August 2018 and Abigails graduation. She never saw either and we were all left devastated and at this moment in time (September 2018) are still trying to come to terms with this event. It is only God's word and his promises that give us the comfort of knowing where our daughter has gone. The Apostle Paul writing to Christians in the City of Corinth, said this:

2 Corinthians 5:6-8 

"So we are always confident, knowing that while we at home in the body we are absent from the Lord. For we walk by faith, not by sight. We are confident, yes , well pleased rather to be absent from the body and to be present with the Lord"

Jesus also told the wrongdoer on the cross "Today, you will be with Me in Paradise"  (Luke 23:43)

The only way we are getting through this, is totally throwing ourselves at our Lord's feet and seeking his support through this awful time.

Our dear Lord knows the 'beginning and the end' Therefore we know that our 'little girl' is safe with HIM. We also had a lovely Christian family who have been a great support for us over that past few months, the couple are Steve & Wendy Allen who have been with us though all of this. 

We have been through the 'Anger' stage and the 'Why' stages and all we have is memories of a beautiful daughter who loved and helped others. Her funeral was attended by people from the South of England and Scotland and many other places. There were around 200 in attendance as she was well loved.

This has made us feel for so many who lose a Child at any age. Many lose a baby and feel attached to the dear little one even after many years.  In these drastic times, we all need comfort and a place to feel at one with our child and the dear Lord.










Ephesians 6:4

"And, you fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord"

This is saying, we all need Nurturing.


John 21:15-17

"do you love Me more than these?” 

He said to Him, “Yes, Lord; You know that I love You.”

He said to him, “Feed My lambs.”

16 He said to him again a second time, “Simon, son of Jonah, do you love Me?”

He said to Him, “Yes, Lord; You know that I love You.”

He said to him, “Tend My sheep.”

Tending the sheep is caring and loving them


Many people live in fear & guilt and may even feel suicidal. We are here to tell you, that you do not have to feel that way, as Jesus loves all those who are broken hearted.